photo credit - “Fat & Alone at Dolores Park,” Danyaal Rangwala. You might have thought I meant don't be that person in the photo. You would be wrong. I hope you won't be like some of the people described in this beautifully written piece on the bullying of "fat" people. The author identified only as Your Fat Friend speaks to many universal parallels of bias. People find … [Read more...] about Please Don’t Be That Person
Trauma is a word that gets tossed around more often now but do we really understand what trauma is? It turns out that there are different kinds of trauma but they all have one thing in common: The capacity to manage what is experienced has been exceeded and this person is stuck in perpetual pain not knowing how to resolve the flood of feelings and thoughts that are running amok … [Read more...] about When Triggers Happen: Listen and Love
White House intern Monica Lewinsky has recently returned to the spotlight after decades of obscurity to share her personal experience of bullying and public shaming. If you're too young to know who she is here is her biography and an overview of the scandal that precipitated her becoming, for a time, one of the most recognized and reviled women in America. She was 22 years … [Read more...] about The Price of Shame
There are many things in addition to therapy that you can start doing to rewire your brain on your own - with intention. We know that recovery and emotional healing is a whole body experience. Therapy is a critical element and provides an "anchor" point and lens to interpret and make sense of your journey - past and present. But the rest of the change happens through … [Read more...] about Trauma is stored in the whole body – so start there!
Why do people who are in abusive relationships stay in them? Why don’t battered women leave? Why doesn’t a kid who is bullied just hit back? The common answer is that some people identify with victim-hood as a way of avoiding responsibility for their own lives. Some people just like to be abused and get some kind of pleasure from it. For kids, it’s part of their social … [Read more...] about The Myth of Victim Mentality